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The evening before Halloween, Doug attempted to stop a fight between one neighbor’s cat and another neighbor’s dog. It ended tragically for both animals. Tommy and I cried ourselves to sleep. I couldn’t bring myself to tell the two youngest children who didn’t witness the horror.
Halloween morning, I awoke with a migraine. The kind of migraine that feels like someone stabbed you in the eye with a dagger and you just know that your own stress has caused it. By lunchtime, the elementary school nurse had called to tell me my youngest child was pukey. He valiantly fought against the loss of trick or treating. “I won’t let myself throw up again.” Fifteen minutes later, he proved himself wrong.
After a quick picture so that the costume could get five minutes of use, the sad child and I stayed home for the ONE trick or treater who came to our door. We are surrounded by much wealthier neighborhoods with perfectly landscaped properties and street lights. I can’t blame parents for avoiding our heavily wooded neighborhood of tiny houses. It still makes me sad.
The middle school child found out about the neighbor’s cat when someone else in the neighborhood casually mentioned it. She came home sobbing. An hour after tucking her in bed for the night, she is STILL crying.
I suggested that next Halloween, we make sure the oldest children spent their evening visiting haunted houses. Doug verbally stabbed me in the heart by reminding me that I was talking about a teen and his best friend who would be away at college next Halloween.
The elementary teacher who sent a sick child home on Halloween, knowing that he would miss out on trick or treating, sent home a pack of worksheets for homework.
2013 – The Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Halloween
Supertween: “Are you lonely when everyone is at school?”
The answer I didn’t give: I have been so busy since school started back that it feels like a blur between the time you leave for school and the time that you return.
The answer I did give: “I miss you whenever you are away.”
Denial: Ask if it is time to leave 283 times in the first fifteen minutes of the event. Every time an adult not related to you giggles, ask three more times.
Anger: Hide in the bathroom and FaceTime your sad circumstances to everyone who makes the mistake of accepting your call.
Bargaining: Ask to leave because you are starving, dehydrated and sleepy. Make Keane eyes at every person you see.
Depression: Flop down in a major pathway and do your best imitation of a rag doll. Whimper and moan.
Acceptance: Find chairs with wheels. Declare them the best chairs EVER.
If we have guests, the children put out the most bleach stained, ragged bath towels that we own.
If I ask the children to bring me a ratty, old towel for the bottom of the kittens’ box, they bring me one of the few unstained, intact hem, perfect softness bath towels.
This must mean that the children think of the kittens as guests. Right?
I have lost count of the number of times I’ve read moms on social media declare that they are banning their child from playing MineCraft because their child “likes it too much.”
Is your child still eating and sleeping? If the answer is yes, then they don’t like it TOO MUCH.
MineCraft isn’t the first thing to captivate children and confuse parents. Children have fallen head over heels in love with other games, cards, collectibles, dolls, books, clothing, tv shows, movies, music, celebrities and colors. Do you remember World of Warcraft, Pokemon, beanie babies, matchbox cars, Tamagotchie, Pound Puppies, My Little Pony, Barbie, Legos, Pogs, Atari, Lemon Twist, Silly Bands, Troll dolls, CB radio, Crazy Bones or arcades? Ask your parents about YOUR childhood obsessions. Even better, ask them about THEIRS.
Children are supposed to like things. It’s okay for children to become so infatuated with skating that they sleep in their skates. There’s nothing wrong with wearing their favorite shirt day after day. It’s a good thing when they must learn everything about their infatuation and create imaginary stories to fill in the gaps in their obsession’s mythology. Encourage them to read everything written by a favorite author. Listen to their detailed descriptions of the difference between this card and that card.
Liking something too much teaches children about time and money management. It teaches them about prioritizing things and people. It helps them learn who they are and what they really need. Liking too much teaches children about love.
Do you really want to teach your children that they shouldn’t like things too much?