Doug walked in the door and asked me a simple question. I immediately tensed up from head to toe and snapped at him. He mumbled an insult about the tension over here being all my fault and then I failed at apologizing for snapping. Failed so badly that he calmly spoke words that stabbed right through my heart. I hate me.
I love you!
I wasn’t trying to say the tension is your fault. I was trying to say that if we want the tension reduced around here you and I have to make a concerted effort to not be tense.