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Since Tuesday was a school holiday for Knox County students, Sarah had two friends spend the night. At the same time that we insisted they quiet down and curl up in front of a movie, a group of high schoolers who had been celebrating the school holiday wrecked their cars in almost the exact spot where Noah gets off the bus every school day. When the girls finally awoke on Tuesday, I talked to them about the car accident, drinking and the parents who lost their only son. Just a few short hours later I had to talk to Sarah again. This time it was about a shooting at a nearby school. I feel like I spent the entire day trying to get a few simple points across to Sarah. Unfortunately, I think Sarah felt like she was lectured all day. To make matters worse, while replaying the day’s events last night, I recognized that my school shooting talk was nearly identical to my suicide talk and pretty close to my drunk driving talk. While Sarah probably had the listening devices in her head turned off because of my monotonously boring talk, all I wanted her to hear was that she can come to me with ANY problem. The parents of the teenagers driving drunk would have happily driven their children home. The families affected by the school shooting would have listened to the angry and unhappy teen shooter before he picked up the gun. Those teens didn’t call out for help. Will my children ask for help?

2 thoughts on “113155198225529827

  1. What I keep telling myself is that I shouldn’t wait for the child to ask for help, I need to be attentive enough and involved enough to know they need help before they ask it.

    While that approach may not work in every aspect of their lives, I would know if they had a bad enough problem at school that they would bring a gun and shoot up their principals, or had a history of drinking too much…

    It just takes involvement, and listening and participation – knowing their friends, knowing their grades, knowing their teachers, and not taking such a step back that you don’t see the signs.

  2. Cathy

    You are attentive enough that you will notice any bigchanges that are calls for help. Sarah may not seem to be listening but I would bet you that she hears what you are sdaying even if she does not acknowledge it. You are a great mom and doug is a great dad.

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