“Sweetie, M and I have a pact that whichever of us survives the other will do a favor for the recently deceased. Since she lives in another state, she’ll probably send someone to the funeral to take care of that favor. If a stranger at my funeral says that they’re here for M, thank them and let them work.”
“Whatever you say, dear.”

*Posting during two plus hour delay for broken plane that I will eventually board.