head catching up to heart

I routinely get phone calls from parents and grandparents of children diagnosed with Asperger’s. I answer questions, tell personal stories and try to be encouraging. While every family’s experience is unique, a difficult childhood is pretty common. Today, I got a phone call from the parent of a teenager with Asperger’s. As I listened to the words coming out of my mouth, I realized that I no longer use military words when describing our lives. We are not in a war with a diagnosis. We do not choose which battles to fight. I have reached a point in my journey that I appreciate my child for who he is and I really like him. He has strengths that I want to encourage. He doesn’t have to earn happiness with checklists. He is allowed to do the things that make him happy. I don’t have to work around his rules and schedules. He just fits in where he chooses, the best he can. He doesn’t need me to be his nurse, teacher, bodyguard and case manager. All he needs is a Mom. Preferably a Mom who won’t cry and embarrass him at his graduation. After years of tears of frustration, worry and exhaustion, tears of joy are a welcome change.

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  1. I have gotten to that place in my mind and heart where I can go with the flow of Aspergers. It truly takes alot of the stress on both me and my daughter. Now that she is 9 ( almost 10 ) things are turning into a different direction. My daughter has always been very independant and no fear which was a good/ bad thing at times and now she becoming more dependant and unsure of herself. Tasks like getting dressed and a morning routine or any routine has become overwelming. She attends a play group therapy and has a blast and we are working on some things to help her however I’m always up for suggestions and greatful for some advice.

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