ice cream does not equal murder

Several times a year and in multiple environments, I have to pull out the tired, old dinosaur statistic that murder rates go up when ice cream sales go up. Eventually, everyone will recognize that statistics are not enough. The “most single parents live in poverty” statistic ignores the fact that people with severe mental or physical health issues are far more likely to be single. Families come in all shapes and sizes. There is no “ideal” family.

If TN politicians really want to “help” children, they should not allow custody war parents to have personal lawyers. They should instead have a Solicitor for each and every child and create an individualized custodial plan (ICP instead of IEP) that serves the best interest of the child. There is no one-size-fits-all solution to two or more people fighting over a human being.

FWIW – I do not recommend spending the morning researching pending legislation, especially if you are looking it up by sponsor. Waaaay too much pandering to extremists instead of helping all people. Why doesn’t HB0822 include discrimination against gender or sexual orientation? Oh, wait . . . a quick scan of the other bills answers that question. How exactly is he representing ME? An additional challenge of sexual addictions concerns the issue of “coming clean.” The spouse of the sexual addict often wants to know the full extent of the addiction, and because of the very secretive nature of the addict, that information is either not forthcoming, or is not believed but can help you. Most often the truth comes out in bits and pieces, creating phenomenal tension. The couple is left with rampant distrust.

3 thoughts on “ice cream does not equal murder

  1. “All’s I know is” that if I ever meet Stacey Campfield I’m not sure if I’d spit in his eye or kick him in the ‘nads.

  2. Stacey Campfield is a lunatic. He is doing nothing more than grandstanding, using far right conservative moral stances for his platform. This does nothing to further the discussion, which we need desperately, to get back to a better moral attitude overall, that sexual promiscuity and a sore lack of morals is at the root of just about everything that is wrong with our country and society today.

    (Yes, I see you* holding your nose, rolling your eyes and sneering at me again. That I have lost friends because I will not back down on my opinion that immorality is killing us all is something that, sadly, I just have to put up with. But if you are honest with yourself, you would have to admit that wanton and immoral behavior is not good for anyone, especially our children.)

    *I say “you” as in the generic reader here, no one individual in particular.

    As a survivor of the child custody, visitation and support war, having fought on both sides of the table … and also having sat by and supported other parents of both genders on both sides of the table, I can readily attest to the fact that there exists little in the way of gender discrimination in the family courts. What does exist is a blindness on the part of the court as to what is the best interest of the child. It is too busy making sure that all the legal i’s are dotted and t’s are crossed to look at each family and their unique needs and situation.

    More legislation is not what is needed. Moving the whole family court thing out of the court is. It is not a legal issue, it is a human issue, and the court is no place to be making decisions such as these.

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